Why are white men so obsessed with Asian women? I'm friends with people from all different backgrounds but I never see my other non-white male friends obsess over or talk about Asian women like I've seen the white ones do.
07.06.2025 03:02
This can cause all sorts of things to go south fast. I had all Hispanic neighbors for awhile, and several were absolutely convinced that my wife was going to be stuck up and cold to them, since for the most part, interactions between Hispanics and Asians around here are transactional in nature. This couldn't be farther from the truth. My wife absolutely adored several of their kids, and always brought something to our monthly barbecue that we all enjoyed. Her name is not readily pronounceable in Spanish, or for that matter English, so she quickly earned the nickname “la China” out of affection. When we had kids, several of the ladies stepped in to help out, and they quickly realized that my wife had all the issues they had and was happy for their assistance. Seeing her as a mother like they were really cemented that they had a lot more in common than they thought. Most of those that moved away have stayed in touch with her, mostly because she endeared herself to them so much.
So yeah, there's an obsession there among some men of all stripes but not really with the reality.
I'm saying this as a Hispanic man married to an Asian woman.
This leads men to try to fill in the blanks and that rarely ends well. As I've said before, my godfather, after meeting my GF (now wife) said to me “she's the first Asian girl I've ever had a conversation with” and that's true for a lot of people.
I think it's lesser in most Hispanic communities because there's lots of ladies that can have extremely similar traits(black hair, lithe frame, epicanthic fold) but I've had several Hispanic guys ask me about dating Chinese women after meeting my wife. Plus, relationships between Hispanic and Asian people tend to be restricted to the aforementioned transactional interactions only due to language issues. However, when language isn't an issue you do see more relationships.
Tldr; unfamiliarity and stereotypes
Unfortunately, for most of the country, encounters with Asian people, and Asian women are severely limited due to the overall low percentages of Asian women in most of the USA. Interactions are often limited to picking up your order of fried rice at the local takeout place.
As far as only white men, I can assure you that other men(black, Hispanic, etc) can obsess over Asian women as well. When I was in college there was a black guy that was completely fixated on Asian girls. Same for middle eastern guys, but lesser again due to sheer numbers.
White/black/Hispanic men aren't obsessed with Asian women.
On actually dealing with Asian women 1x1 a lot of men find that they're really no different from other women, and sometimes that's a disappointment. My best friend is Asian(different country) and even I was surprised to see his tiny sister working on her car back in high school(something I deemed extremely un-asian girl like back then) so I'm not free of stereotypes either but at least I was more prepared when I dated my wife. The stereotypes of people can be a real hindrance to relationships.
I've written this before but I'll write it again.
They're obsessed with the idea of Asian women.
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The Internet has done some awful things to Asian women, and it's rife with stereotypes. Many times Asian women are portrayed as corny caricatures thanks to anime, pornography, and Hollywood. They're often the dragon lady that knows martial arts or the super smart but hot girl but in any case still sexualized in an odd submissive/dominant role.
That's the issue. Men aren't really equipped to deal with Asian women most of the time and they get their information from crap sources. They don't want a real woman that happens to be Asian, they want this weird illusion that they've seen in porn, video games, or anime. I've been asked countless times “what's it like being married to a Chinese girl?” IDK honestly. I've only ever married her. Men that fetishize women for whatever reason don't tend to have long term relationships with these women once the novelty wears off.